Genesis 2:22-24 Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

 
The order of priority in a marriage is:

1) Relationship with God (this is not church or volunteer service, but one on one and two on one (husband and wife) time with God and being led by God).

 
2) Spouse: this includes spending time together, having conversations with one another, asking each other for ways to improve as that person’s mate and not getting upset at their response, keeping dating one another and sex with each other as high functioning in the marriage, and every other way God leads you to be with and prioritize each other.

 
3) Children who are minors: God has entrusted you with the gift of parenting, but your role is to raise children to be godly, loving, purpose-fulfilled, independent adults. You are not the person who makes their adult choices, or runs their lives. And whether they’re minors or adults, they do not come before your godly spouse.

 
4) Fulfilling your God-ordained purposes, work, church, friends, and whatever else He leads you to prioritize.