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God wants us to live an enjoyable life. That life is not always going to be handed to us automatically. At times, we’ll have to do things that make some of us uncomfortable. One uncomfortable thing involves confrontation.

Confrontation is not necessarily a bad thing. To maintain our joy in every area of our lives, confrontation can be a useful tool. However, it requires us to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

For instance, if our spouse is doing something that irks us, instead of suffering through it, trying not to rock the boat or complaining about it to our friends, behind our spouses’ backs, kindly request they stop that behavior. People can’t read our minds. If we want change in our lives, we have to be bold enough to ask for it. This simple tactic can be applied with our co-workers, friends, or bosses.

That uncomfortable feeling we have with confrontation is fear. We can’t be afraid of their response or how it might make us look. If we want a change for the better in our lives, we have to ask for it. Although the context in James 4:2 involves asking God for our desires, the principle can be applied to people. If God requires us to ask for our desires, why would we not expect to ask people as well?

James 4:2 You lust, and have not: you kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: you fight and war, yet you have not, because you ask not.