Proverbs 17:14 (CSB) To start a conflict is to release a flood; stop the dispute before it breaks out.

As we can see, starting conflict is problematic. Unfortunately, there are some who enjoy conflict. It excites them to tap into their emotions and cause someone else to tap into their emotions. Some people think conflict adds spice to their marriage. This type of thinking is twisted. The goal of any relationship is to be drama-free.

We can’t be drama-free if we’re willing to argue about everything we don’t agree with. We can’t be drama free if we’re intentionally trying to pick a fight with those closest to us.

If we’re always arguing or desiring to pick a fight, we must look inward. We must ask ourselves, is this God’s best? Our flesh may enjoy it, but is God pleased? There has to be some deep underlying issue that likes conflict. Conflict could be what we saw growing up as a child. We may think starting conflict is how we show love. Starting conflict could be a defense mechanism to avoid being hurt. Whatever the reason is, allow God to show it to you and follow His instructions to root conflict out.