1 Corinthians 13:4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

If we have problematic experiences in our relationships with our spouses, children, and others we claim to love, we have to ask ourselves are we operating in the biblical definition of love.

If we’re rude, inconsiderate, manipulative, and self-seeking towards someone, but we say we love them, we’re lying to ourselves. We may like what they can do for us from time to time, but we don’t meet the real qualifications of love.

The action associated with love is giving. Love is always giving and it never expects anything in return. Biblical love doesn’t wait on someone to do something for us before showing love. In spite of the other person’s actions and in spite of how we feel, make the mature choice to love.

Relational problems can’t exist when true love is represented.